Have you ever felt that if you tell the other person what you really think, that’s going to be the end of your relationship? I am sure you have stopped yourself from saying what you think for the sake of continuing that relationship. Or perhaps, after a while you have really told them what you think and effectively realized that it ended the relationship? I feel this way, both at home and at work.
Most people blame the conflict for this dilemma. It’s not conflict. It’s how you handle the conflict that makes the difference. It is an art to speak the truth and keep the relationship going. Fred Koffman, in his book- ‘Conscious Business’ describes this beautifully. He stress on the fact that it is easy to say the truth. It is difficult to speak the truth and continue a harmonious relationship. It is definitely a skill that comes with time.